Home Sweet (future) Home

I feel like Matt and I have spent all but the first few months of marriage looking for a place to live.

I liked our first apartment a lot – probably because it was mine, it was spacious compared to where I had been living, and I got to have my Mikenna back. It wasn’t a great place. The a/c didn’t work, everything was outdated, and one of the neighbors let their cat roam in the corridor, and it would bring in and dismantle birds.
Still, I was pretty sad when we got flooded out and into another building.

That apartment I truly disliked. The nicest thing I can say about it, is that it had some great sunshine. It was drafty, the carpet was well past expiration when we moved in, and it was so loud. I felt like we were living in a cheap motel, so at the first chance of moving out, we bolted.

This apartment was the best we could afford on peanuts. It was ever-so-slightly closer for Matt, and in a nicer general area. Only having one set of neighbors in direct contact with us was a great improvement over three, and this place was a lot nicer than where we’d been. At the time, the building was inhabited by quiet, drama-free families, until the “dudebro” moved in above us. Even then, we only heard him during soccer games.
But no sooner had we moved in here, than we began to think about moving down to Virginia. But to be honest, we were doing little more than going from paycheck to paycheck, with no real ability to save up the money to move across the country. We began to dream of entrepreneurship at a time when the economy made no promises of obtaining a steady job.
Unfortunately, in that desperate hope, we put our eggs into the basket of an untrustworthy individual. But we never actually settled in here because we planned to leave.

I can’t tell you for sure that this is what happened, but I think when the economy in Michigan tanked, a lot of people left, and the complex lowered their standards. When the families in our building moved out one by one, their replacements got increasingly strange. I’ll leave it at that. While we’ve liked the apartment itself, it’s become an uncomfortable place to live at times, what with the neighbors who got their toilet unbolted from the floor and flooded our bathroom off and on for a year.

When that debacle started, we began looking for apartments in Michigan again. When the company Matt works for decided to move even further south, we knew we would have to find a place. We’ve been slowly combing through apartments in a 20-30 mile radius, looking for something that would be worth moving to. Yes, we’re picky, but once you’ve cleaned up your neighbor’s toilet water for the fourth time, I think you’ve earned it. One by one, we’d find a place that seemed fairly promising, only to have some red flag pop up.

I would say that it’s been discouraging, but I don’t feel like that accurately describes it. It’s been downright depressing, trying to find a place that fits our needs (takes pets, 2 bedroom, budget), maybe even our wants, in an area we were comfortable with.

While looking for office hours on the one remaining complex on our list – the one we were dragging out feet on going to look at – I saw a new one. I clicked on a whim, believing that the reason it wasn’t a contender had to do with their animal policy, but no, they were actually new.

We sat down and talked with the regional manager today, and tonight we started the application process. Incredibly, this place fits everything on our list of requirements, many, if not all of our wants, and with perks on top. It sounds like they do things because they want people to actually live in their apartments for a while and be happy, not to view it as temporary housing.

The complex has 1/10th of the units that our current complex does. Each apartment is single story – nobody above or below. Each unit has a two car garage, standard. They don’t charge a pet rent per pet – either you have pets, and pay one fee, or you don’t. Private patio. You don’t share an actual wall with your neighbors – they are separated by two layers of wall, a gap, and a firewall. Not only does it have two bedrooms, but it has a semi-separate den area, meaning that Matt and I can each have our own spaces. No more sharing the living room for us!

I could go on and on. But suffice to say, I’m excited. I really hope that this will be the place that we will settle down for a while and flourish. I am sad that we will be further from the church we’ve grown to love and our music lessons, but we will be so much closer to many of our friends, and we both feel strongly that this will be a better quality of life move for us.

Every once in a while, patience really does pay off.

Character Growth in a Series

One thing has always bothered me about The Simpsons: The series never changes.
Oh, sure, Millhouse’s parents divorced, and Maude Flanders died in that freak t-shirt canon incident, but by and large, the status quo is maintained. Homer is fired and promoted and back at his same desk – Mr. Burns never quite remembering what an incompetent employee he has. Bart, Lisa, and Maggie have been perpetually frozen in time, save for the occasional jump in time that will likely contradict another such jump.

Other series, of course, do the same thing. They take their audience into the world’s sandbox, make a huge mess, and then smooth everything out at the end. There’s nothing wrong with this approach – it allows for a unique type of storytelling in which truly fantastical things can occur in the world, because there is little need for continuity. Everything, including character death, can be swept under the rug in this context.

However, seeing characters grow, change, and learn tangible lessons from their mistakes is also interesting and, when done right, is what I prefer both as a storyteller and as a consumer.

Watching both the Dragon Ball and the Dragon Ball Z series have been interesting in this regard. Goku has gone from a little boy to a point where he is in his 30′s and has two children, one of whom is a teenager himself. Every encounter Goku has had with friends and foes has altered his character over time. There’s a small arc in Dragon Ball where Goku has to learn to both move quickly and not use his sight but feel the vibration in the air around him. Twenty odd years in series time later, Goku still remembers this lesson: When he is transported to a planet where his opponent can see in the dark but he can’t, he isn’t bothered, because he knows better.

Likewise, the attitudes of many of the recurring characters changed a fair amount after the Cell games. They are more confident in their abilities, fighting is a bit less fun for some of them, and they know not to underestimate a threat. They are still the same characters – Vegeta is up to his hair in pride and Goku still loves a good challenge – but they have been changed through their experiences. Unlike live action series, getting to see characters grow over this length of time in their world is really interesting – particularly so much care has been taken to keep the world consistent.

Another favorite show of mine – How I Met Your Mother – walks something of a middle ground. Most episodes tell their own, neatly-wrapped story, but the series itself maintains a great deal of continuity and is telling a larger story, of how Ted Mosby meets his eventual wife. The sandbox element of it is that no story has to drag on for more than one episode, Lily and Marshall’s terribly eventful dinner party will be one complete episode, as would Ted’s five minute first date with Stella. But each of those mini-stories carry some sort of action down the line – throughout the season, Ted develops a relationship with Stella that almost ends in marriage; Lily and Marshall try to be suburbanites before deciding that they’re happier in the city. But having an eventual plot point that the series is working towards, at least in theory, helps keep the character’s lives moving forward – even if it is at a fairly slow pace.

I’m sure there are lots of other examples of varying degrees of continuity and character growth within series, both in tv and print. What storytelling methods do you prefer? What series do you tend to find yourself drawn to, and what about it keeps you coming back?

Week One in May

One of my 100 things to do this year was to take a picture every day for a month. I chose May.

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May 1st: It was super nice out, so I decided to take Mikenna for a walk. Have you ever tried to walk a westie? It’s pretty much like being pulled along by a miniature sled dog. She pulls and leans and then suddenly stops to smell something, causing you to almost trip. (Also, this fulfills “take a walk” on my list.)DSC01629we

May 2nd: Some of my girl friends have started getting together to watch movies on a (mostly) weekly basis. On this day, Aum tried to make bacon cookies using colored sugar cookie dough. The proportions didn’t turn out right, but dude, I thought they looked neat.DSC01631we

May 3rd: We don’t often have wine or really, anything other than water and sodastream. We picked this up a few months ago. I have no idea what good wine tastes like, but this was okay. Matt picked it out, in case you couldn’t take a wild guess.DSC01633weMay 4th: Man, this was an incredibly long day for me. But, I got to go hang out with our friends and play board games. I’m a solid introvert, but I love our friends. These board game days have been a particular treat, and I laughed a lot. DSC01634weMay 5th: So, this is what church looks like. Kind of. Technically, this is practice, before church. I run the projector, Matt plays guitar. We get up at “way too early o’clock” for it, but I really like our church, so it’s worth it to me.DSC01637weMay 6th: Matt went a bit over on his oil change – so I encouraged him to take the time to get one after work, even though he usually goes on weekends. As it would turn out, that was a good thing. They tested his battery, and the results were something along the lines of, “Please, don’t drive around on this battery!” – They were out of stock on the one he’d need, so they found him a battery, even though they wouldn’t get a profit from it, and sent him directly to go get it. We’ve been throwing a lot of money into that Jeep lately, which makes me rather cranky. But, I do appreciate the oil change place we go to – we’re up there often enough to have built a rapport with them, and they’ve never steered us wrong.DSC01654weMay 7th: I’ve been the DM in our group’s DnD campaign for around two years, I think? (We’ve had a few rather lengthy hiatuses) We’re getting ready to wrap up in the next few sessions, with one final assault on the big bad guy’s tower. I decided that I’d give them the ‘what’s what’ first, rather than making them be totally surprised – I thought, hey, maybe they’d want to have a strategy or something!

Not so much, really, but whatever. This group keeps me in stitches and gives me concussions from whacking my head on the table at their antics.

I decided to make maps, not for the miniatures, but for kicks. I used stamps, which was kind of funny, because, I mean … it’s not like my stamps are for this purpose. Frankly, we’re lucky I didn’t use “hooray for you!” as a dungeon marker. They’re simple and silly, but fun to make.

Making Characters Squirm

The following post contains light to moderate spoilers for the tv series Downton Abbey (season 2), as well as the Mistborn novels by Brandon Sanderson. You have been warned.

Any writer worth their salt has seen some version of the following advice:
You have to hurt your characters, make them squirm, to hit them where it hurts, in order to make the story compelling and (somewhat) realistic.

As a reader, these are the moments when you cry out “What?! NO!!” and frantically turn the page. They’re the cliffhangers, the emotionally charged moments that keep you reading. My mentor advised me to check out The Hunger Games because the author does a good job of ending the chapter with these moments. As a writer, this is something to work on, to make your book impossible to put down. These emotional roller coasters can’t be too contrived, because your audience will see right through that. But if you can time your shocking revelation or moment of peril to the end of the chapter, so much the better.

One of my favorite examples of this lately is the Mistborn trilogy, by Brandon Sanderson. If you want to read through a series of great examples on how to torment your characters, this is a great one. (It’s a great read anyway, but this is one reason I respect it as a writer.) He is a master at tough love for his characters. Have trust issues because of your tough upbringing? The character will be thrown into working with a tight-knit crew. More comfortable in the shadows, being unseen? Character will need to infiltrate society in a very public way. Is a character unknowingly being held back by their attachment to another? That character will have to be killed off or removed in some other capacity. It’s very difficult not to squirm right alongside the characters.

Along those lines, Ender’s Game is another great, if more obvious, example. Any time Ender got too comfortable in a situation, finally got things under control, the powers that be would change the rules, sometimes turning his world upside down in a literal fashion. Ender showed his frustration, and that made the scenario work.

We just finished watching season 2 of Downton Abbey this afternoon, which is what motivated me to write on this topic a bit. Matt made a comment to the effect of, “This is how you write Downton Abbey: Take the likeable characters and dump all over them. Let good things happen to the unlikeable ones, and if they do get their comeuppance, make sure it isn’t too harsh.”

I think that is, basically, what makes Downton Abbey so riveting. The story drives you to become quickly invested in these characters, who will then see only the briefest glimpses of happiness before something falls apart. When the ‘paragon’ characters step out of line, their fall from grace is swift and their climb to redemption is steep. Meanwhile, the ‘renegade’ characters jump over the line just begging to be caught. What makes Downton “chapter turning” is the deeply held, yet quiet belief that everything must work out for our heroes, eventually, and our villains must be defeated.

Nothing in the Downton universe comes easily for the characters. Matthew and Mary’s arc is the most obvious example, with almost every possible obstacle coming between them. Sybil has both inner conflict and very tangible problems to deal with in her relationship with Branson. Even Thomas, oh, dear, I-want-nothing-more-than-for-him-to-get-punched-in-the-jaw Thomas, had to work to get back into the good graces of Lord Grantham. Who among us weren’t smugly satisfied when he turned up covered in dirt and scrapes after his unsuccessful search for Isis, only to have her run up to him once returning home? (And who wasn’t more than a little disappointed when Thomas was promoted?)

These are good things to remember. Nothing of value, nothing satisfying, should ever be handed to your characters, no matter what their station in life. If the character values it, they must work to obtain it. This is why characters need fleshed out personalities and backgrounds – why authors need to understand more about their characters than is explicitly spelled out on paper – because they need to know their characters’ currency.

Everything in your universe needs to have a cost, to have strings attached. Sometimes, the price will be more than your characters can willingly sacrifice – in which case, it may need to be paid for them. (I’m thinking of Luke losing Obi-Wan, here.)

Don’t be afraid to make your characters squirm. Don’t treat them with kid gloves. Your readers will be able to tell, and your story will be lackluster for it.

 

The Exit Strategy

Over the past few years, I’ve seen quite a number of programs aimed at helping people quit their day jobs. The recurring theme is this: You hate your job, you want out, here’s the foolproof way to do it! (For an investment of anywhere from $199 – $2000)

Some of it offers practical advice, such as developing a six month cushion of money before jumping ship, considering insurance needs, and so on. The meat of these courses though, seems to be about optimizing websites, social media accounts, and marketing. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with all of that, but I noticed one thing consistently missing: craft.

A few years ago, the ‘surefire’ way to be able to quit your job was to become a web designer. Any monkey with an internet connection can install wordpress (they said). As a result, the market became saturated. So, having seen all of these people become web designers on their advice, the first wave became life coaches. Then that caught on, and they turned to e-books on successful blogging and selling speaking engagements.

I suspect that there have been a lot more people out there who have done entrepreneurial web design than actually care about it. There’s nothing wrong with that, at one time or another, we all work on things that we don’t care about. But if you’re going to go through the effort of quitting your job to do something else, shouldn’t that be something you’re passionate about? Something that you’re not going to get tired of in three years? Shouldn’t step one of quit your job/follow your dreams be to hone your craft?

If you start your own business venture, it is going to be more work than you can imagine. Not only do you have to be competent at the trade, but you need to manage your bookkeeping, protect your image, and do all of your own marketing. Personally, I don’t think that anyone in their right mind should do it unless they absolutely adore and can’t live without their craft.

I understand that there are many people out there who want so badly to get away from their day jobs that they’ll jump at the chance to do something else that promises success – even if they don’t enjoy it. The Boy and I were there not that long ago, trapped in a dead-end, thankless job. I wasn’t comfortable letting him making the jump to freelancer when we had the opportunity, because my gut told me no. It turned out to be a good thing, but, I wish instead of a beat of desperation, there had been the encouragement to get really good at the thing you love.

I think that, overall, that type of message would be a lot more successful. If you need to have an exit strategy for your job, focus less on the short schemes and break your (metaphorical) back becoming a pro at the thing you love. Do that, and then find a way to make your talent and art known to others. It seems like a more genuine, more natural approach. Try to sell something you don’t believe in, and eventually others will know. Maybe it’s because your quality of work starts to slip as your attention fades, maybe it’s just the lack of a spark in the way you talk about it. A poorly made, but well-marketed product/service will not hold up over time. Make sure what you offer is solid and important to you, then worry about the fancy packaging.

What is the absolute worst case scenario if you get very good at something you love, but can’t make a living from it? You’ll still be doing something you love, and probably at least make ‘pizza and beer’ money if you do some marketing. Don’t wait until you can or must do something full time in order to work hard at it. If you love it, if you want to improve at it, do it now.

365 Days

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So, about 365 Days ago, I decided that I was going to try and write every day. I wanted to hit 100 days.

Once I did that, I decided to keep going, just to see how long I could go. I really didn’t think I’d make it to 200. But then I did. At that point, I realized that I was over halfway there, and I should aim for the full 365.

I would like to say that after one full year of writing, I’d have some profound advice. Unfortunately, I don’t.

On the whole, I am a better writer because of the sheer amount of words that I’ve plunked down. I don’t think it’s possible to do something for that long without some improvement. I could have improved a lot more if more of those words were spent on actual writing projects rather than words for the sake of words. But the result is that writing is fairly well burned into my mind.

Writing on a daily basis is not an easy thing, even if all you’re doing is emptying out mind sludge. There have been days when I simply didn’t feel like it, and the pages heard about it. There have been days where I squeaked my 750 words in just under the wire, and there have been days where I rambled for 1500. But I wrote, and I wrote … and I wrote.

It is my intention to ‘step up my game’ now, to not just write, but to write diligently, and to work on projects. I still aim to query Roselyn’s Legacy by the end of the year, but if that doesn’t happen, I want to have made substantial progress on it, not to have failed because I stopped working.

If you want to write, do it. Write every day. Write about how dirty your carpet is, about how your head is pounding, about how you don’t want to write at all. But start writing, and go from there. Write every day, and if I might offer my experience – do try to write in the morning, if you can. I know. I’m not a morning person by any stretch of the imagination. And if I had to get up early in the morning, I might change my tune. But once the day gets spinning, it’s so easy to put things off or lose track of them. Anything that is so important to you, should be done as early as possible.

What’s next?

Well, I’m going to keep writing. There’s still a 500 day badge out there, and well, I’m more than halfway there. I want to hunker down and continue editing Roselyn’s Legacy, and continue cultivating the story that The Boy and I are working on. I’ve also decided to start working on little short scenes, just to try out different writing muscles.

I also started a Facebook page. Truth be told, I feel so silly doing it. But I think it’s a necessary step. I am a writer, and that’s what you do now. Time to start building that fan base so that when the time comes, it’s one more thing in my corner. Having hammered out my pen name, I went ahead and set up the page. It would be fantastic if you would ‘like’ it for me.

Here’s to another 365 days, and all of the 365 days after that.

Pen name, my name

Last month, I mused a bit about pen names – my maiden name felt too plain, my married name too complicated, my gamer handle not ‘just right’ either.

This weekend, the answer hit me square in the face, and as it turns out, the simplest answer is the best.

It occurred to me that it’s the person that makes the name. Nothing about the name Stephen King is particularly exciting, but we feel how we do because of who he is. It’s the same reason that one might be more inclined to name a child after a favorite aunt, or less because of an unpleasant high school acquaintance. Oprah would just be a woman with a misspelled name if she weren’t the tv icon. Names are certainly important – but the people behind those names give them influence.

I decided that I want to try and publish under the name that feels right to me: Sarah M. Coleman

Since my husband has no desire to put out music under his unwieldy Polish moniker, there’s no guilt in me not doing so, either. That name can be the one on the bank card.

It’s my family name. It’s the name that traces me back to several generations of carpenters in a small town in the middle of nowhere New York. I may not build things with my hands – in fact, screwdrivers are a little sketchy for me – but I can build worlds with my words. A sentimental move? Absolutely. But right now, it feels like the right one.

Eventually, I’ll look into streamlining things. I think that will probably mean a new domain at some point, even if it just directs back to this site. I changed the name on my twitter profile because that was quick and easy. The @ name doesn’t matter currently, in my opinion. It’s a screen name, and I love leianajade for that – just not as the name I want in print.

But, with that relatively minor detail worked out, I’m ready to dive back into editing and writing. I haven’t had any focus the last few weeks, but I want to get back to work. There’s a lot to do.

Recent Reads

Eon – Alison Goodman
Eon has been studying to become a Dragoneye apprentice along with several other young boys. The position is an extremely important one to their society, as the Dragoneyes protect the land with the power of the dragons.

However, Eon is a cripple, injured in a cart accident a few years prior. He was lucky to keep his leg, though this puts him at a terrible disadvantage in strength and dexterity.
Eon is also Eona, a female. As times grow tense and Eon’s position remains tenuous, the discovery of her identity may be the end of her and her country.

Opinion: I thoroughly enjoyed this, and snatched up the sequel prior to finishing, which turned out to be a good thing, as it leaves off smack in the middle of the tension. Incredibly rich and vivid world building, with very layered characters. My only complaints have to do with this book’s main ‘villain’ – I didn’t feel like they gave him compelling reasons for his actions, that he was a little “mustache twirling”. There were also a couple instances of violence that I thought were a little squicky. I’m not a big fan of the fact that, when the villain discovers that Eon is a female, that his reaction is to try and force himself on her. It’s not a trope I’m comfortable with, and I thought was a bit heavy for a YA novel. However, the rest of the novel is fantastic and very much worth reading.

Divergent – Veronica Roth
In dystopian future Chicago, society has separated into five factions. At sixteen years old, everyone is given a test to determine what faction they best fit into, and then they must make a choice. But Beatrice Prior’s results are inconclusive – she fits into more than one faction, rendering her divergent, a very undesirable thing in this society. What will Beatrice’s choices do to herself and her family?

Opinion: I enjoyed Divergent, but I didn’t quite like the world-building, and I thought the book got hopelessly teenage drama at times. The Dauntless faction in particular, supposedly valuing bravery, demonstrates this in acts such as jumping off moving trains (just because), propelling out of buildings (just because), getting piercings and tattoos (just because) and beating each other up (just because). While I think one of the points that they try to make in the book is that all of this =/= bravery, it was a little eye-rolley to me. I enjoyed the characters of Beatrice and ‘Four’, but many of the side characters aren’t particularly memorable. All that said, I did enjoy it enough to keep me up late a few nights to read it.

Crossed – Ally Condie
Cassia journeys out into the outer regions to find Ky, the guy she’s sweet on.

Opinion: Nothing happens in this book that couldn’t be summed up in a couple of paragraphs. Almost nothing felt meaningful, and while the first half of the book was boring, the second half was just frustrating. The world, which was so fascinating and vivid in the first book, is almost non-existent here, except for a few flashbacks and mentions here and there. In the second half of the book, the two main characters simply need to sit down and have a conversation for a chapter, and fail to actually do that. That part of the drama feels incredibly forced, and in the end, I felt like I had slogged through a desert for nothing. I want to read the third book to get some resolution on the story, but after this one, I’m not very excited.

What have you read lately? Anything worth sharing?

100 Things: Less than I’d like

The last few weeks, I’ve been kind of … Well, busy and not. I know at some point, I’m going to have to go out of state for a funeral, but I haven’t known when, so I have been hesitant to make much in the way of plans. I’ve also been rather sidelined by a knee injury. Plus with the crappy weather we’ve had, The Boy working all those crazy hours until recently – it’s been a perfect storm of not getting much done.

I have, however, been doing as much reading as I can justify.

That said, I have managed to cross a few things off of my list in these last few weeks.

#11. Try a new recipe
I’ve been waiting until I tried something resembling a dinner recipe before calling this one good. I don’t know why.

There’s a particular recipe on Pinterest that involves spreading avocado + seasoning on a toasted pita and topping it with an egg. Nothing about that sounded bad, and the only reason I haven’t tried it sooner is that I forget that I’ve pinned things and never buy groceries for them. I’m happy to say that it was actually really good. It’s marked as a breakfast recipe, and I think it would be very good for that. It also makes a decent dinner, if you’re Matt and I.

14. Take a class somewhereI don’t know if I’ve mentioned this one as “done” yet – I took a creative writing class in February & March.

#25. Get a haircut
I did! It wasn’t drastic – I got a little bit taken off the ends, and more layers put in. This is the longest I’ve kept my hair ‘long’ in quite a while. Usually I chop my hair short, then grow it out – and repeat. I keep eyeing cuts between chin and shoulder length though, so I suspect this summer my long locks will be gone. But a haircut is a haircut. Sorry – I haven’t gotten around to pictures yet. I’ll get there eventually.

#53. Establish holiday traditions for us
We actually did this one a while ago – sat down at Panera one night and talked it over.
It comes down to this:
Thanksgiving is our holiday, at home. Christmas eve can be spent with M’s family, but we have dibs on Christmas day. As long as we have a church we’re happy with, we’ll either alternate what we do for Easter , or we’ll go to church then drop by his family. Naturally, if my family ever lives nearby, we’ll re-evaluate.
It’s what we were already headed towards, but having talked it over, so we don’t have to debate it every year, was nice.

#70. Make a pie
I’ve made a few, in fact. Nothing too fancy. Mostly of the pudding and cool whip variety. (Fact: Not a huge fan of fruit pies unless they’re from scratch. Even then, they’re good, but I don’t love them.)

#91. Go see Lauren Willig
DONE! I wasn’t sick, or recovering from being sick, and it was a really lovely day. M and I also went to a fancy cupcake shop, and we bought books. I hope she comes back next time she has a book to promote, but if she doesn’t, well, I finally managed to do it right.

Right now, I’m at 37/100. Not where I’d like to be, but hopefully I can knock some more things out in the near future.